
When planning your wedding, one of the many decisions you’ll face is whether or not to do a first look. A first look is an intimate moment before the ceremony where the couple sees each other for the first time, often captured by your photographer. For some couples, this moment feels like magic. For others, the first time they lock eyes at the ceremony is what they’ve always dreamed about. So, how do you decide?
Let’s explore the pros and cons of a first look to help you make the best choice for your special day.
The Pros of a First Look
1. An Intimate Moment for Just the Two of You
Weddings are busy, and having a private moment to connect before the ceremony can ease nerves and create a sense of calm. A first look allows you to enjoy time together before the whirlwind of the day begins.
2. More Time for Photos
By doing a first look, you can get most of your couples’ portraits, wedding party photos, and even some family photos done before the ceremony. This means more time for you to enjoy cocktail hour and be present with your guests after saying “I do.”
3. Genuine Emotions, Uninterrupted
Some couples feel they can be more vulnerable during a first look without the eyes of guests on them. This can result in authentic, heartfelt moments that feel more personal.
4. Lighting Flexibility
If you’re getting married during the late fall or winter when the sun sets earlier, a first look ensures you have ample time to capture daylight photos before your ceremony, especially if it’s in the late afternoon or evening.
The Cons of a First Look
1. Losing the Tradition of the Aisle Reveal
For some couples, seeing each other for the first time at the altar surrounded by loved ones is a tradition they aren’t willing to part with. The anticipation and joy of that moment can be incredibly powerful and emotional.
2. Less Time Before the Ceremony
Doing a first look and photos beforehand means your timeline will need to start earlier, which can add stress if you’re not a morning person or prefer a more relaxed morning.
3. Potential Impact on Emotions During the Ceremony
Some couples worry that having a first look will take away from the emotions when walking down the aisle. While many couples still experience overwhelming emotion during the ceremony, this is something to consider.
4. A Possible Disruption of Traditions
For those who are more traditional, a first look might feel like it breaks from cultural or family expectations. It’s important to consider how it fits within your overall vision for the day.
Alternatives to the First Look
If you’re torn, there are ways to combine the best of both worlds:
• First Touch: A private moment where you hold hands around a corner or door without seeing each other can still provide intimacy without a full reveal.
• Letter Exchange: Reading heartfelt letters to each other before the ceremony keeps the emotion alive while preserving the aisle reveal.
• First Look with a Parent or Wedding Party: If you want a special moment before the ceremony but want to save your grand entrance for your partner, consider a first look with your dad, mom, or your bridal party.
Making the Decision
Ultimately, whether or not to do a first look is a personal choice. Think about what feels most authentic to you as a couple. Are you looking to spend more time with each other on the wedding day or stick to the classic traditions? Either way, your wedding will be unforgettable—and your photographer will make sure every emotional moment, first look or not, is beautifully captured.
If you’re still unsure, I’m here to help. Let’s chat about your vision for the day and create a timeline that works perfectly for you!
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